Too perfect for words...

carmen: I know how hard you work to keep yourself at a distance from everyone else on the planet, but it's not working for you anymore.

shane: It's working fine.

carmen: No, it's not, because of this. (puts shane's hand on her heart, then puts her hand on shane's heart) Okay? Do you feel this? Most people don't have this. This is rare.

shane: So what?

carmen: That's right. So what? So what if nothing ever comes out of this? So what, if you'll never act on it? You are so convinced that having a relationship near you is going to kill you.

shane: Because it will.

carmen: And that's why I'm with Jenny. It works because she and I are both biding our time, waiting for the real deal to come along.

shane: You don't think you and Jenny are the real deal?

carmen: Jenny wouldn't know what the real deal was if it bit her in the ass. She is so lost in her own darkness. I think she likes it in there. But do you know what's fucked up? Is that you and I know what the real deal is. We saw it the first time we laid eyes on each other. You're not living your life, Shane. And if you don't take any risks then you might as well be dead.

WSGKSG: Erin McCarley Reading Playboy

In the realm of Ways the Straight Girl Knows She's Gay (WSGKSG), it doesn't get much clearer than reading Playboy. (Maybe watching lesbian porn?)

Thank you for making my day Erin McCarley! I wish I could have made it to the Madison show, I heard it was amazing.

Confession: I have a crush on Meghan McCain

This has been escalating for awhile now. It started when I read her plucky response to other less enlightened right wing female pundits when they criticized her (gorgeous) curves. Then I started seeing gays and lesbians I follow on Twitter re-tweeting her tweets supporting same-sex marriage and defending equal rights for all. Curious, I decided to follow her too and that just fueled the fire. I'm a sucker for a girly girl and fellow blonde who is both political and fashionable, compassionate and (a bit) silly. If she comes out as pro-choice - actually, just make that if she comes out in general - I'll ask her to marry me. (Too much? lol) Swoon.

Her photo shoot for the No H8 campaign sealed the deal though. She looks absolutely beautiful in this picture and it couldn't be for a better cause. And BTW, if anyone knows what nail polish she is wearing do tell cause I want it! If this is the future of the Republican party in the next decade (and god, I hope it is), it bodes extremely well for the gay rights movement. And for bringing young people to the party. And for ending the culture wars. And...okay, you get the point, it's a good thing.

So there it is, I have a full on crush on the lovely and talented Meghan McCain. My family would disown me if they knew (cause she's a Republican, not cause it's a girl crush - we're that kind of family) so I share my deep dark secret with you, blogosphere.

Uber Mega Riot Grrrl

So call me Captain Negligent for my lack of posting. It's been kind of a weird transitional month for me. I have to tell you about the amazingness that was Summerfest in Milwaukee on Monday night.

I'm honestly not a big concert goer because other people (teeny boppers, drunks, obnoxious people in general) tend to ruin them for me. But a particular line up for Monday got my butt from Madison to Milwaukee for a great night of music.

Erin McCarley

A Texas native, Erin McCarley got experience playing in San Diego. She has distinctly country undertones (she covered a Patty Griffin song) but mostly a pop singer/songwriter feel. Her first album Love Save the Empty debut in January with a lot of support (I heard about her through plugs on iTunes and at Starbucks) and a spot on the soundtrack for He's Just Not That into You. Her voice was just as bright and lovely live as on her album, but she could use a little practice working the crowd. A great moment was her and the pianist's beat box cover of Suzanne Vega's "Tom's Diner" which she asked the crowd to sing along to if they knew it (none of the teeny boppers did).

Girl in a Coma

These are contemporary riot grrrls if I've ever heard them. The trio hail from San Antonio, Texas (are you noticing a theme?) and were recruited to the Blackheart Record label by Joan Jett herself. The group is queer friendly, having opened for Tegan and Sara and featured on Afterellen.com. Being totally legit and having played for 8 years, they definitely didn't get the show they deserved. The crowd sucked (mostly drunk men waiting for the Guffs later on, with a handful of punk lesbians and latino folks) and it started raining almost as soon as they started playing. But the girls were rockstars, and lead singer Nina's expressions during the show were priceless (and combined with a wifebeater and red lipstick, completely sexy).

Sick of Sarah

This all female quintet from Minnesota was the real treat of the night. I'm a sucker for a saccharine sweet voice backed by an emo sound a la Veruca Salt, Letters to Cleo, Metric, and Rocking Horse Winner. Very late 90s in the best way possible. With such a sweet voice I wouldn't have expected the group to be as badass as they were - especially lead singer Abisha Uhl - cussing, spitting beer and messing with the security guards. Bonus. Again, the crowd was less than stellar, mostly teeny boppers staking out a spot to see Spoon who would be following. The queer girls in the crowd stood out like beacons, mouthing the words with their eyes fixed on the hotness that is SOS (particularly the slender blonde Jamie on bass :-). This band was definitely the queerest of the night, getting heavy exposure on Afterellen.com and playing on an Olivia cruise. I can't wait to see them again in August with Addy Janes!

More rocking chicks playing @ Summerfest:

Grace and Julian - cool jazzy vocals

Geri X - indie folk rock

Sarah VonderHaar - pop acustic

Melismatics - indie punk

Shiny Toy Guns - electronica

honeyhoney - pop folk rock

Lita Ford - lead singer for the Runaways (a riot grrrl legend!)

The Veronicas - pop rock

Riot Grrrl Thurrrsday

Ok, this is a make up edition of Riot Grrrl Thurrrsday, since I missed last week.  Graduating and moving have a way of becoming a tremendous time suck.

VersaEmerge

Sierra Kusterbeck = awesome lead singer.  Kudos to Fueled by Ramen for signing them.  Also check out their YouTube, the band is pretty funny.

Howling Bells

Juanita Steins vocals are mesmerizing.

Buffy Sans Joss Whedon? That Ain't Right.

So. Very. Wrong.

An article on The Hollywood Reporter's website claims that a new Buffy the Vampire Slayer movie is in the works WITHOUT JOSS WHEDON OR THE REST OF THE CAST. Sorry to shout, but WTF?!

Guess who's spearheading the project? None other than the director of the original 1992 Buffy movie, Fran Rubel Kuzui. You remember her, right? Made a mockery of Joss Whedon's original script, the end result was deplorable at best? Technically, she and her husband Kaz were executive producers for BTVS but my understanding is they had nothing to do creatively with the show - just reaped the financial benefits. Why does anyone think it's a good idea to let this woman be involved in another Buffy project? Kuzui shouldn't be allowed to touch it with a ten foot pole.

The salt in the wound is that so many Buffy fans have waited six years for the remote possibility that another movie - a better movie - could be made with Joss at the helm and with the original cast. I'm livid. Share my anger and comment or join the Whedonesque rage here (there's already 150 comments and it's only been a couple hours.)

Riot Grrrl Thurrrsday

Death Cigarettes



I found this group kind of randomly, but I love the lead singer Maya's voice. The group hails from London, but I'm hoping they come stateside soon. I hear they put on a pretty wild live show. Rumor has it Maya wanders the crowd and messes with audience members. She can mess with me anytime she wants ;-)